I’m exhausted and weary. I’ve had so much on my plate these last couple of months. I’m currently in the process of moving. Then having to deal with my son getting sick from this horrible weather. Sigh. I wish there was more time in a day for me to do everything I have to do and everything I’d like to do as well. I’ve been meaning to update the website for some time now, but unfortunately, time doesn’t allow such things. As I’m typing this, I’m yawning like crazy but having a hard time getting to sleep. It has been like this for a while now. Sleep doesn’t seem to be an option at the moment but hopefully I’ll be able to catch up on sleep soon. I need to take it easy. I don’t even remember the last time I’ve had some pretty good rest.
A Stronger Woman
I’ve been described as a “man hater” for the longest time. That isn’t the case at all. I believe that women should learn to respect and take up for themselves. If you allow a man to disrespect you, then you don’t have respect for yourself and in my opinion, you’re weak. When women allow men to get away with things, it only encourages them to do more. Why? It’s simple. They know you’re not going to do anything or go anywhere and 9 times of out 10, they’re correct. Please allow me to say this one time and one time only, there are too many great men in this world to be worried about or stuck on one asshole. You don’t have to go out behaving like a whore but you don’t have to allow a man to treat you like one either. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. If you have to be single in order to rid yourself of jerks, then so be it. I’d honestly rather be single than stuck in a relationship that isn’t going anywhere. Don’t allow yourself to be victimized by punks and the like. The more respect that you have for yourself, the more other people will respect you.
I’ve been having restless nights, too. I toss and turn quite frequently and this has been happening for the past couple of wks. Normally, I’d be able to sleep 10-15 minutes after turning all of the lights off… I hope you get some rest though, don’t over exert yourself hun.
A lot of women don’t know their worth and don’t have any self-respect. When you lack self-respect, people won’t respect you. I WISH people thought like you and I did b/c I agree with everything you’ve said. I haven’t been in a relationship yet and I’m not in any rush to jump into something just for the sake of having someone, unlike a lot of people I know. I don’t think you’re a man hater- you just have your head on straight!
You and me both, I was completely exhasted today and I always wish I had more time and even with “time management” it is still too much. I agree that a woman has to respect herself first and for me I never let a man treat me no less than my father would treat me and that was hard to do thats why I was single until I found someone who was worth my time, but it takes a while and love takes patient
Wow, I had to take a very short but needed hiatus from my blog to get some things in my life straight. i am also in the process of moving out and there are some many other things on my plate these days. i can see where you are coming from.
lol @manhater. you are just a smart young woman who knows what she wants and what you don’t want is some assclown of a man lagging behind you. some women just need to wake up and see the light.
I find that I tend to go to bed later then the norm. I am so tired but sleeping is is a struggle. I’m just basically tossing and turning and all of that crap that comes with trying to sleep. I hope things turn out better for you though…
I agree with your second paragraph. Its so true what you said. I’m not going to write an essay about it because I couldn’t have said it better myself.
I agree. I rather be alone and content than be with some guy that stresses me out every single day. That isn’t worth my happiness. I seriously don’t have the energy to be heartbroken everyday of my life just because I want to rush love.
First i’ve got to say that I miss ya bitch, long time. eek. Anyways, I’ve always admired your strength & ability to hold on to what you believe is right, and the right way to do shit. there aren’t alot of women like that, even I can admit to times where boredom > the RIGHT thing to do + I can’t remember the last time you let that go down. No one’s perfect, we all have our mistakes but you are extremely different and most dude’s can’t handle that. never had to handle a female of your stance so of course they’re first defense is to act as if what you are about is a negative when it’s really nothing remotely close. I say it everytime I speak of you & i’ll say it again – you are like the only chick i’d make a friend of outside of the group of females we’re normally bunched in with because of the area of the net we seem to ‘hang out’ in. I think in a way, alot of these dudes partly come at you because it’s like ‘well no one got her, i am!!’ thing but then also because you’re so great. k enough sucking you off. ♥ loves ya!
I agree with you. And I know that feeling like there’s not enough hours in a day. So much you have to do and so much you wanna do. Sometimes it won’t really go together.
And I do think a lot of women these days let men walk all over them and when you’re a strong independent woman who doesn’t need a man to support her and who doesn’t take any b.s. from a man, you’re a man hater? That is weird and untrue!
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Choosing to be single, and being totally comfortable with it, has a lot of advantages. You have a lot of time to learn more about yourself (because you and I both know you can never stop growing) and you tend to get even more picky with who your next mate is going to be. The more you date/mingle, the more you realize what you really want in your life long partner. I’ve had many people (particularly men) ask me why I dump guys so easily/fast and pretty much it’s because I can detect things I will not tolerate within the first month of the “getting to know each other better” process. I can go 6 months in a relationship with someone & as soon as they do or say something I know for a fact will be a major issue in the longrun I bail out. No reason for me to try to change anyone or “hope for the better”. Just like you said, that’s why most people get stuck in bullshit relationship until the point where they can just say ‘we have so much histoyr”. I’m not looking for history. I want growth.
hello shannon. i havent been here in a while. i finally came back to the webscene. link me back! lol
but anyway. i feel the same way. im always tired and i always feel that theres something that i need to be doing that i havent. mainly because im a new mom and i work and trying to maintain my relationship. there just ISNT enough time in a day to do everything.
Hey girl. Yeah I know what you mean. I was never impressed by Chris Brown and during his show my only focus was on the dancers. Looking back, watching videos I must say I like his new songs (and I appreciate his body so much!!)
I feel the same way. If a women allows a man to disrespect her I think she’s weak too. Especially when it comes to them laying their hands on you.
I’ve been single for about 6 months now and I feel good! Hell, I dont think I ever felt this good ever! The stress of relationships becomes too much sometimes.
I actually agree with you. These days, men are assholes and that is because the women in our generation LET them get away with it. Girls make it easier for men to use us and then dispose when done. If it means going without a man, until you find the one that RESPECTS you as much as you respect yourself, than so be it!
Keep your chin up. I know you have quite a lot to deal with, but I know you can handle it. You are very strong, Shannon. In fact, I admire you in many ways.
man haters unite. cause if that makes you one then i’m certainly the leader LOL
I hope things calm down soon!
The Stronger Woman bit is quite true…
WELL I HOPE U GET SOME REST AND EVERYTHING.. IT DOESNT SEEM LIKE ENOUGH TIME SOMETIMES ITS CRAZY.. HAVE A GOOD ONE..
I don’t get enough sleep. And I fall asleep in my car most of the time. I work too hard.
Not every woman is going to believe what you just said. Sometimes I speak up for myself and I’m the one being looked at funny. I defend myself in all realtionships I’ve ever had. I don’t let no man talk me down or put me down. I walk with my head high because I am just much as a woman as he is as a man. No difference!
Many young women today wont grow into a woman until she finds herself into a position that she is forced to grow up. It’s sad that it takes a lesson for a woman to wise up. But in life, we all learn and grow. I understand you completely. I was one of those women that learned as I grow. I’m still growing. It’s not man hating at all.